The new beginning is yet to come, it is on its way. Taking big and long steps. Close but yet so far. I am sure you can’t wait. So do I. Or maybe, it has already started. Maybe that’s already it.
The world was shaken. Our daily life was. Unspoken sorrow and tears. Life complexities and difficulties we did not imagine before. That’s why, the new beginning is even more awaited. To move on and re-start. But hold on. We just did it. The world has changed, our life has re-started. It continues, it its new form already. For sure shops or schools re-opening won’t indicate to us that this is the new beginning. That’s not what matters, especially in this new outset. However, for the new beginning to take its full effect, it is just important to close fully the previous cycle. Let the past life go.
Don’t hold on. Let it go.
the NEW BEGINNING
How is the new beginning? How different is it from the past? And foremost, are we ready for it?
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.
Some time ago I learnt that the symbol of the new beginning are butterflies. Also now, it all links back to the nature and simpler way of living. It is just that, when people ‘paused for a while’, the planet has started to regenerate, as if it was waiting for that moment for a long time now. Maybe when we were exactly ‘chasing life moments’, somewhere we got lost in all of it.
Remember my very first post? Today’s world makes most of us chase every single day, every opportunity, every happiness… simply its each moment. Shouldn’t we say that it was ‘yesterday’s world’ now? Or simply, let’s just slow down with all our chasing. That was exactly the purpose behind this blog and the tagline that I am using. Let’s chase moments, relationships and smiles. Let’s limit consumptionism, gadgets or neverending work.
Many asks when the ‘normal life’ will be back. First of all: was it really normal or lived as a super race? Secondly, do we want exactly same lifestyle to be back? I still remember my visit to New York. On the first evening, as usually when travelling, I went out in the evening. I took metro and went to the World Trade Center area. When I reached the station, two things caught my attention. Immense white space, an amazing design and architecture. And: huge number of people, all with head down – watching mobiles or own feet, walking so fast, moving in each possible direction. One of the most internally disharmonious place I have been too. And yes, I have traveled a lot to Asia before, which is more crowded but somehow internally more present.
So, I just hope that we are moving ahead from that ‘normal life’ towards a new life that has already started.
Last days, when talking to friends, reading news or watching impactful stories – there is a constant message in them ‘we will change for better’, ‘this is a life lesson for us’. How can we make it? Individually and together. There an important pre-condition: we need to ‘stop being who we were, and change into who we are.’
LET’S MAKE IT HAPPEN
The new beginning needs us more than ever before. It won’t last nor continue for long without our daily actions and change in our lifestyle so far. Nature has proven it by nearly shouting to us ‘give us space, give us fresh air and water, let us co-live together’. Our beloved ones – the ones with us at home – started to appreciate time together, this closeness that we never experienced before. And the ones further from us – felt that how our presence is important and missed.
Did your mobile, TV, laptop, favorite shops or office miss you? I don’t think so. So after reading this post, I would like all of us to take 3 commitments. Once I was told, when my dad got cancer, that all significant things take place in our life so that we can evolve. And to do that, we need to change our previous way of living. It is a call to action, but it is not coming from me. I am also in participant role here.
Missing ideas? Maybe something below will help you. Just to try to be specific and consistent. Remember the magical 21 days rule? Then it becomes a habit!
- Wake up earlier to watch sunrise – beginning of the day
- Spend more time with parents / grandparents
- Start monthly digital detox day
- Replace plastic with glass at home
- Regularly walk instead of driving
- Declutter your home & donate more
- Cook instead of ordering food home
- Switch to organic products
- Replace chat groups with chat gatherings
- Start your own mini (or big!) garden
- Cut your shopping expenses by 1/3
- No phone in bedroom or by dinner table rule
- Plant a tree
- Replace series watching with sunsets watching
- Split your current TV time into TV and books reading time (50-50%)
THE NEW BEGINNING: INSPIRING READING
‘The Blueprint to Design a Life Truly Worth Living! Do you know what makes you tick? Without knowing the answer to this question, you will always feel like something is missing, no matter how successful you are.
This book will move you from concepts and theories into integrated end-to-end processes, tools and techniques. So if you are looking for an opportunity to bring passion back into your life in a way that will positively impact your career, business, relationships and lifestyle like never before, then you are holding the right tool to do that.
If you are just itching to build the life you’re dying to live, then this interactive book will help you design a life truly worth living. Through a simple and enjoyable process, it will help you to #LivePassionately.’
‘In this inspirational work, world renowned teacher Louise L. Hay offers profound insight into the relationship between the mind and the body. Exploring the way that limiting thoughts and ideas control and constrict us, she offers us a powerful key to understanding the roots of our physical diseases and discomforts.This practical self-help guide will change the way you think forever!’
‘One day, the Little Buddha gets tired of sitting all the time alone under his Bodhi tree and so he goes travelling. His journey leads him to a big city, to a dark cave in the forest, to the sea and to the desert. Always being curious, he encounters many different people and many different stories… ‘Sometimes you simply have to find the courage to take the first step.’
To choose a direction. To make a decision. And then to stop thinking and simply start.’
Whenever a new chapter is yet to begin in my life, I read ‘Closing Cycles’. Over and over again. It is like my mantra that helps me to embrace the change and welcome it with more acceptance. Also last weeks, I kept on reading it, many times. It is our new beginning!
One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.
Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?
You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.
You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.
But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister.
Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.
Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.
That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.
Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.
Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.
Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.
Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.
Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”
Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.
Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need.
This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.
Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.
Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.
Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.Paulo Coelho
Moments that matter, no matter the cycle.